Why You Need to Spend More Time with the People Who Make You Better

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In the worlds of fitness, self-improvement, and entrepreneurialism, one seemingly universal notion is this: “you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

While there’s certainly, at least, a hint of insipid ideological phraseology inherent in any universalism, this one in particular has merit.

You are–without question–a product of your environment, and the people with whom you choose to surround yourself will, as a matter of course, have a tremendous influence on everything from your ambition and the energy you’re willing to expend to achieve it, to the way you speak and present yourself.

Ironically, while people accept this as truth, many seem to miss the inescapable yet seldom voiced counter-notion:

If you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, then you’re also 1/5 of the equation for each of those people, and anyone else in your immediate orbit. 

Therefore, while it’s certainly true you should prune your social and business circles from time to time, and seek ways to spend time with people who make you better, you also have a responsibility to the people you care about to be better and to always be getting better.

Put somewhat less prolixly: don’t suck.

If you suck, you make everyone else suck, too.

It’s important to do as much as you can with people who make you better. Brainstorm with them. Break bread with them. Share space with them. Breath the same air as then.

And, whenever possible, hang out with them all damn day and learn from them.

You can get better and continue to grow by working with a coach, joining a mastermind, and going to the right events.

EVERY DAY, you have the opportunity to surround yourself with people to make you better–even just working at that coffee shop that’s a little bit farther away because the energy is right and you’re surrounded by other hustlers.

Don’t suck. The people in your circle are dependent on you.

About the Author

John Romaniello is a level 70 orc wizard who spends his days lifting heavy shit and his nights fighting crime. When not doing that, he serves as the Chief Bro King of the Roman Empire and Executive Editor here on RFS. You can read his articles here, and rants on Facebook.

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